What to Say to a Girl in a Text

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Wondering what to say to a girl in a text message? Texting is an art form. There is no one-size-fits-all approach. Your approach needs to be adjusted to the girl you’re texting.Here's what to say to a girl in a text

Some major things to consider

When / where you met. Was it last night at a college bar… In your high school math class… At a random coffee shop?

The kind of girl/guy they are. Is she liberal or conservative… Does she party all night or sleep early… Is she a career girl, an athletic girl, a family girl?

How he/she responds to your text. Does she reply quick & detailed… Does she reply slow & short? Those are really the only two options – just what degree
We’ve tested lots of different ideas / questions / games, etc.

We’ve tested funny stuff, flirty stuff, sexy stuff, you name it. This stuff applies whether you’re a guy or a girl. Happy texting!

Roll w/ these general rules of thumb

You wanna be ambiguous. You don’t wanna give away your whole position, but you wanna give an idea.

They have to kind of know where you’re standing.

Stay ambigous, don’t give your whole game plan, just a teaser

For instance, you’re wondering what to say to this girl in a text message,

you’re sitting at your house by yourself…you don’t tell her your by yourself, b/c being by yourself is
not the optimum, you avoid talking about who you’re with.

You say, “hey, wanna play a game real quick, i’m bored”


You’re kinda telling her that you’re by yourself, but you’re not saying it in a loser-ish way…

If you ask a chic if she wants to play a game via text–assuming that you’ve created somewhat of a rapport
with her, she’s gonna text back…and she’s probably gonna say, “yes, I wanna play”

Once she says that, she’s YOURS.

You no longer have to wonder what to say to a girl in a text message, b/c now you can say whatever you want.

Tell her, “something random about me…I play violin. Now, something random about you…”

This will almost always get a response from a girl. But, it may not apply to your specific situation, so here
are some other good ideas…

Say something like…

“This is fun, we should do this more often..”

This makes her think, “What’s fun? What are we doing? What should we do more often?”

Gets her thinking. At the same time, makes you fun-loving. What’s fun?

Another thing you can always say…

“What’s for dinner tomorrow, baby?”

Doesn’t mean you are having dinner w/ her, BUT, points out the fact that both of you are having dinner tomorrow.
And that both of you like to eat, and that both of you are human, and stuff like that…

Plus, it gives her an in. If she wants to have dinner with you, she’ll jump on it. But if she doesn’t, or she’s in between (which is most likely the case), she may not. But you still give her the chance.

So without really even worrying about what to say to a girl in a text — we’re over here coming up with cool stuff…

Check this –

Have absolutely no idea what you’re going to say to this hot chic that you’re text messaging –

Be like -


Then like, 12 seconds later be like…

Can you put aluminum foil in the microwave?

This will DEFINTEly make her laugh! Definitely…

Consider yourself golden – and stop texting her.

Here’s a funny thing about the story too. When it comes to text messaging women, it’s best to? have like 5-10
different chics that you COULD be text messaging at any given time.

Thus, when you’re done..or when you’re at a pause with a certain chic..you can be texting this other chic, so
you’re never really bored. Always have some chic to text.

Shameless plug: get an iPhone so that you can be a text pimp

Anyway –? what to say to a girl in a text –? if NONE of the stuff that we’ve said so far works — here’s something
that works, no matter who your daddy is…

“Is that a gun in your pants, or are you happy to see me?”

HA! Just kidding – DON’T use that!

The reason we built up the anticipation and then screwed you at the end is B/C here’s the thing… There’s no one
perfect text message to send to a chic.

It’s always situational.

It completely depends on who you are, who she is, where yall met, where yall have been together, what yall have done
together, who yall know, what’s goin on in your daily lives, what the dilly is, you know??

Did you meet her at Starbux? (that’s where I meet a lot of my girls : )

Talk about coffee.

Did you meet her at the bar? (that’s where I meet a lot of my girls : )

Talk about liquor.

Did? you meet her at the grocery store? (that’s where I meet a lot of my girls : )

Talk about food.

Did you meet her at the book store? (that’s where I meet a lot of my girls : )

Talk about…you get the point.

So really, the question of what to say to a girl in a text message comes down to a few important points…

#1 – What NOT to say to a girl is more important. Dont talk about being alone, being lonely, being hungry, being
bored, being anything pathetic. Highlight the positive. DON’T COME OFF AS DESPERATE….EVERRRR

#2 – Be funny, be light. As an extension of no. 1 – don’t say anything too important or deep, don’t give away too much about yourself…don’t really reveal much

#3 – Relate to the situation. Every experience is unique. You met this chic at some specific place, doing some
specific thing thing, what were you doing? Where did you meet her? What was the dil? Talk about something that
you already have in common if possible.

#4 – If all else fails, tell her the following: “I’m a man, you’re a woman, we’re both young, we’re both hot”

If she doesn’t respond — that’s what happens. Sometimes they dont. But sometimes they respond later.
Sometimes you’ll send her a text and she wont respond for a minute. She won’t respond at all.

But then they respond later.

It’s actually happened to me a few times..she’ll not respond whatsoever, and then she’ll text back. Believe me,
they get lonely, just like you.

The important thing is that you have many different chics going at the same time. If you are having trouble thinking
of things to say in a text message to one girl, then you are following the wrong path. What I mean is that if
you are sitting here stressing about a single chic, then you should go out and find some new chics, becaue
the single most important hting about he pick-up game is having many, many chics

You should be meeting chics everyhwhere you go. Eveyday you should be meeting new chics. Starbux, safeway, quiznos, chic-fil-et, mcdonalds, wendsy, subway, 7-11. dunkin donunts, wherever it is that you’re going on a day-to-day, you should be meeting chics.

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12 Responses to “What to Say to a Girl in a Text”

  1. Pick Up Lines on August 28th, 2009 4:42 am

    I think two key points in this article that will serve you well are to remember to: keep a little mystery (don’t give up the ghost) and to keep it light and funny. DOn’t get too serious, too deep, too intense. Keep it light. Make her laugh and you’re on your way.

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  3. jwc500 on February 21st, 2010 3:50 pm

    Yea the whole aluminum foil line didn’t work. Now she thinks i’m retarted

  4. kevin houston on March 29th, 2010 2:29 pm

    its was all helpful. I laughed a lot while reading through

  5. admin on May 1st, 2010 11:41 am

    It’s all in the delivery, baby! Get out there and try again with a new girl!

    -P Funk

  6. admin on May 1st, 2010 11:41 am

    Hey Thanks, man! Hope it works for you — the secret is just in practicing!

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  8. girl on June 20th, 2010 10:20 pm

    I am a girl and I can promise you this will not help you get laid and can possibly do the exact opposite.

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  11. Justin on August 7th, 2011 11:29 am

    Just be yourself guys and don’t Overthink the situation, ur just talking to a girl. Flesh and Blood.

  12. angela on October 18th, 2011 5:43 pm

    im a girl and this is not helpful
    if she likes you she likes you and if she doesnt she doesnt.
    be yourself and maybe you can have a beautiful relationship come out of it

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